3 Simple Mantras That Get You Through Life’s Not So Simple Resets

Beat this in your head like a drum

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No one prepares you for life’s resets.

Quitting a job you thought was a dream job. Leaving a marriage. Moving to a new city. Resets are difficult because you were prepared to call your old life home. Now, it’s a memory.

It’s a visceral heartbreak watching an old dream shatter for no better reason than it didn’t work out. Pat yourself on the back. You had the courage to walk away, to make a change. Do you realize how many people refuse to change? The poor souls prepared to die on a hill that’s completely wrong for them?

The thought doesn’t make resets any easier.

Here are three mantras that will.

It was always meant to be temporary

Our thoughts like to default to the negative — especially during a reset.

“I just wasted five years in this job!” “Woe is me!” “She was the one, I’ll never be happy again.”

Sound familiar?

The psychologist Robert Ellis has a humorous name for this mindset: “musterbation”. It feels good for a few minutes but ultimately does nothing. How about an alternative? Instead of a closed mindset, what if we…